In my area it’s the first day of school for kids……lots are excited because they have new clothes…..backpacks. Lots of kids are not excited….for the same reason. I don’t have any children of my own…..but my heart aches this time of year (and frankly all year round) for kids who watch fellow classmates arrive wearing the lastest fashions….shoes….and they sit quietly feeling “less than” because they do not have anything new, or “fashionable”. The truth of the matter is…. these are the years of kids lives when confidence is shaping….or not….and A LOT has to do with immaterial things because our children begin to compare themselves to others, or they are being teased….. they begin to get segregated into groups according to fashion, looks…..talk about the “Have and Have Nots”…walk into any school and you will begin to see the separation…..
Gee think I have any bitter unresolved feelings about things?! I hate back to school time….and I’m almost 40 years old…..the smell of an inside of a school bus used to make me sick to my stomach….why? Because it was taking me to a building where you had to fit in and perform or be persecuted for it. Looking back, most of my “friends” would be surprised to know my feelings…..I tried so hard to be “tough”….hmmmm….come to think of it….I still do.
As we get older. for most of us….school memories fade into the past…..we struggle to remember…..and for others of us….we struggle to forget…….I guess today I write this to say…..please be aware and involved with your children – TRULY BE AWARE of what it’s like look back to your own hidden feelings when you were in school…..there isn’t enough money in the world to have me to turn back time and “go back”…… Hell, I still live with some of the effects today.
Were you a “Have or a Have Not?” and how did you REALLY treat others? Think it’s just “kids being kids”? For some….yes. For others…..who have broken homes….broken minds…..broken souls……NO.